5 Most Popular Myths About Sexually Transmitted Disease

What do you know about sexually transmitted disease, aka STDs? If you’ve never contracted one, then you have either had only one partner, or you have been smart enough to use protection, or you’ve just been lucky so far!

Here, then, are 5 myths about STDs that just might help you prevent getting one yourself.

Myth #1: You can tell if someone has an STD by looking.

This myth is almost laughable. Any idea what the symptoms of human papilloma virus (HPV) are in a man? I’d guess probably not, because many men who get HPV from a partner don’t have any symptoms at all. Yet the consequences can be quite serious, as HPV puts a woman at high risk for cervical cancer. The same can be said of chlamydia, which can lead to infertility if untreated.

Never assume that the absence of sores or a rash mean that a partner who hasn’t been tested is free of STDs. Always use protection, because what you can’t see can hurt you.

Myth #2: If you know your partner, you won’t get an STD.

I’ve had grown adults who are sexually active with multiple partners tell me flat out, “Oh, I don’t need to worry about protection, I know my partners are clean.” How? Clearly they are under the spell of the first myth, above.

When you’re sexually active with multiple partners, why would you assume that your partners are only sexually active with you? This is a fool’s game. Either get tested and stick to one partner, or use condoms.

Myth #3: Herpes can only be passed when someone has an active outbreak.

False. Many people have no idea that they’ve been infected with herpes because it can take several weeks for evidence of an outbreak and so they can spread the disease to other partners without either one suspecting a thing. Even couples in long term relationships should use protection if they want to ensure that the virus isn’t passed along.

Myth #4: STDs are passed in semen.

STDs are generally passed by skin to skin contact, like syphilis, gonorrhea, and herpes. Thus, people can pass STDs through oral sex, even if one partner doesn’t ejaculate into the other partner’s mouth.

Myth #5: STDs happen to somebody else.

Truth: STDs happen to all kinds of people, from all walks of life, and at every age. It is a fact that the largest growing population of people with AIDS in the US are senior citizens, who are sometimes naïve about the dangers of unprotected sex. Then, too, an unsuspecting spouse can contract an STD if a partner has unprotected sex with an affair partner or escort.

Whoever you are, whatever your age, if you suspect that you have an STD, get tested. If you know you are disease free, stay that way by using protection and asking new partners to get tested. Consider limiting your partners, too, so that you have less of a chance of becoming ill.

Adult Film Star – Sex & Stamina Secrets Revealed

During the course of researching our book we talked to a male escort and adult-film stars. We were trying to ascertain what it takes to be able to perform sex multiple times in one day.

One thing that makes a man sexually powerful is his ability to be multi-orgasmic. For women it is a simple process, for most of them; but it’s rare to find a man, especially after the age of 25, who can perform these functions.

From the information we gathered, it wasn’t due to the “blue pill,” or some type of stimulant, though many men think that this is how these men “prop-up” their abilities. It was due to other factors.

One important factor was that they had to believe that they could perform this way. That was a necessary hurdle, to realize that it could be done.

Diet was especially important. These men ate plenty of protein, grains, and vegetables. They didn’t eat junk food or fast food, and didn’t drink soda or take alcohol. They drank mainly water. They supplemented their diets with things like amino acids and zinc – supplements that aid in increasing the amount of seminal fluid. No smoking.

Exercise was important, too. A cardio-vascular program, as well as weight/body training. Especially the back muscles, buttocks and leg muscles, and abdominal muscles. If these muscles are so weak that they are drained during one sexual workout, it makes sense that the muscles will be too weak to perform any time soon.

Strengthening the PC Muscle(s). These are the muscles that make up the lower girdle of the pelvis and are one important factor in maintaining an erection and creating an erection. They also are related to the cremasteric muscle, which is important in testicular strength and regulating sperm temperature (sperm are very temperature sensitive) by raising and lower the testicles. For instance, when you get in a cold tub of water, your testicles will shrink up and bring the testicles closer to the body – this is to keep the sperm warm.

How to Get Through to the Opposite Sex

What caused your last argument? Are the words you said the same ones your sweetie heard? It’s no secret that storms between women and men linger at the intersection of loving and living. You may find yourself asking, “Earth to sweetie, what must I do to get through to you?”

Here are 4 gender communication pitfalls with tips on how to avoid falling into them. While all men and women are not all the same, using just one of these tips the next time you disagree may reap relationship riches.

Pitfall 1: Men can separate sex from love, but women think that sex IS love.

A recent study found that a large percentage of women have sex for the sheer pleasure of it. Duh! But the study ignored the posturing of the genders AFTER sex occurs. Women ask me how they can push a guy towards permanence. The bonding hormone oxytocin, which gals have in far greater supply, drives women to bond with a man. But the male tortoise that tottered toward commitment now darts like a cheetah toward the cave. He feels invaded while she feels evaded. Hey guys, lighten up! The female black widow spider usually fails in her attempts to eat her mate after sex!!

Steve told Jackie he didn’t want to get serious. But since he was living at her home on weekends, she thought he would come around. Because Jackie kept pushing the issue, the couple ended up splitting for good.

My Advice: Yes, we know that talk is cheap, but if someone says the same thing to you over and over again, you need to listen! As my Gilda-Gram says, “If any partner feels s/he is in maximum security lockup, your relationship is doomed.” Sex is sex and nothing more – unless BOTH partners agree to change the script.

Pitfall 2: Men talk deals, women talk details.

Words have different purposes for the two genders. Women use them to solicit rapport, while men use them for gathering and disseminating information. In fact, men may accuse women of talking too much, but research shows that men actually talk more.

Lauren missed Fred after not seeing him for awhile. As soon as they got together again, she blabbed non-stop, describing every detail of the time they spent apart. While Lauren just wanted to include Fred in her life, his mind was screaming, “Damn! Does she ever shut up?” Unable to tolerate her constant chatter, Fred left Lauren in his rearview mirror. Lauren never knew why.

My Advice: Before pitching your message, assess your honey’s receptivity. Ladies, when your guy walks in and asks how your day was, ask him, “Do you want it in male talk or female talk?” Usually, he’ll choose the former, so offer a synopsis. Your feelings will remain intact while he goes off to unwind. Later, you can fill him in on any important details.

Pitfall 3: Women deliver “like-me” language, while men argue their points.

“Like-me” language preps the “nice girl” to ingratiate herself and avoid offense. Statements with a question added to the end (“The movie was good, wasn’t it?”) avoid issuing a judgment on the speaker’s behalf. Hedging phrases (such as “I think” or “kind of”) avoid imposing an opinion. In contrast, men blurt out their thoughts without subterfuge and tend to compete in one-upping each other.

Nice girl Traci was furious that each time she argued with Ralph, he insisted that if they broke up, he’d find someone else before she did. This was his aggressive repartee, a style guys customarily use without taking anything personally. After I explained to Traci that this was a gender distinction, not a slap in her proverbial face, she was able to laugh off Ralph’s competitive edge talk. Her new attitude softened all their future disagreements, and they’re now planning their wedding.

My Advice: Observe how the genders speak within themselves as a group. Know the stereotypes, honor the differences and laugh them off, just as Traci did.

Pitfall 4: Men want to fix women’s problems, but women just want to share.

When Marilyn brought her work problems home to Alan, he proceeded to tell her how to solve them. Unfortunately, all Marilyn wanted was to vent to someone with whom she felt “safe.” In my own relationship, I told my seasoned businessman boyfriend (whom I’ll call “Studly”) that I was looking to expand my consulting firm. Studly then escorted me to various booths at a trade show, introducing me to anyone who would listen. He’d begin by saying, “This young lady would like to…” as though I were a mute 10-year-old. “Hey,” I told him, “I’m an adult woman, I have a legitimate Ph.D., years of corporate consulting experience and I can SPEAK FOR MYSELF!” Studly thought he was “fixing” my dilemma and had acted with the best of intentions. He had no idea why I was so upset until I explained.

My Advice: Ladies, know what you’re after before you unload. If you just want to vent, tell your partner that exactly. Guys, if your lady doesn’t tell you what she’d like your role to be, ASK HER before you provide solutions to the problem at hand. Women typically don’t want to take your directions any more than you like asking for them.

In the end, Mars and Venus can communicate with each other. For planetary bliss, just don’t assume that what you say will be interpreted in the way you intended. Ask for feedback. Understanding gender communiqués successfully is a major key to sustaining love.

Clever Role Play Examples To Keep Your Sex Life Sizzling

There really are so many different role play ideas that you can experiment with. It’s really down to the depths of your imagination as to what you can conjure up. If you are having trouble, think of your favorite movies or soap operas and reenact the most memorable scenes. Or play in to your partners most desired fantasies by dressing up as his most desired female super hero.

If you still need some idea’s, here are a few that will really get those creative and sexy juices flowing!

ROLE PLAY IDEAS

Doctor

Doctor or nurse role pay or any form of medical role play is always a very popular choice. Have him play the distant yet intense Dr to your helpless weakling who won’t stop until every inch and fiber of your body has been examined, prodded, sucked and seduced as he preps your body for its final operation of taking and devouring your body all to himself.

Vampire

With the boom in popularity with everything vampire, this is one of the best role play ideas. Have him chase you around the bedroom as you scream helplessly to get away from this blood sucking vampire. Have him tear at your clothes as he tries to get closer and pins up against the wall, salivating in your ear before plunging his teeth deep in to your neck.

Master And Slave

Choose your role and carrying it out with the utmost vigor. If you are usually the dominant one in the relationship or the one who usually has the final say, have a little fun and switch the balance of power between you. Many people find it incredibly hot to submit to their partner in erotic role play Whether it’s being instructed to perform specific sexual acts, wear specific clothing or to obey any command, master and salve is both hot and thrilling for both participants.

Phone Sex

This is great fun for long distant relationships or when you are unable to see each other as much as you would like. Some may find it a little harder to get in to over the phone, as they are unable to always gauge the reaction of the receiver. A sneaky drink can assist with helping you let go of your inhibitions and just get on with it. If either of you are good at accents pick a character like a sexy Russian prostitute or a sizzling Italian siren. Seduce him with the magical sounds of your voice, and let the phone sex role play begin.

Wicked Children’s Stories

Children’s stories are excellent for turning in to sensual adult role play. Little Red Riding Hood is one that is particularly fun when slightly editing the dialogue to “My, my look how big your… is.” You get the drift. Sleeping beauty or Snow White are also great for the romantics out there who have a fantasy about being the princess saved by her prince with not only a very happy ending but a particularly erotic one as well.

EXTENDED LIST OF ROLE PLAY IDEAS

1. Alladin and Jasmine
2. Any Famous Actor or Actress
3. Call Girl and Businessman
4. Caveman and Cavewoman
5. Damsel in Distress and villain
6. Dr
7. Nurse
8. Little Red Riding Hood and the Big Bad Wolf Role Play
9. Medical
10. Mrs Robinson and Boy Next Door
11. Musician and Groupie
12. Photographer and Model
13. Phone Sex
14. Pizza Delivery Boy and Horny House Wife
15. Police Warden and Prisoner
16. Russian Mail Order Bride
17. Strangers in a Bar
18. Stranded on a Deserted Island
19. Tarzan and Jane
20. Tied up
21. Vicar and Nunn
22. Wealthy Woman and Male Escort

Online Dating Using Craigslist Personals

The other day I got an email from a guy asking me about whether he should use Craigslist Personals, my initial answer was no, and then I got thinking. A lot of guys seem to prefer free online dating sites over paying ones, yet surely you are going to have a better chance of meeting someone of quality on a paying site and that’s my experience.

They tend to attract less spam and more quality, attractive, single women. So why do some guys refuse to pay for online dating sites even if it leads to them remaining miserable? Maybe they don;t have too much money to spend, they don’t have any confidence that they’re going to meet anyone or they like to be lonely and alone. now I know saying that might be a little harsh but sometimes people actually fear successful as much as they do failure. The way many men conduct their dating lives leaves them little chance of success and sometimes you have to invest such a little bit more time and money into getting what you want and it makes a world of difference. So since I know that most guys will continue to use free online dating sites even though I recommend paying sites I decided to elaborate on the Craigslist Personals question.

Should you use Craigslist Personals?

You have probably heard at least one of your friends discussing Craigslist Personals at some point. Maybe they had a good experience perhaps it was a bad one, but I am going to assume it was probably the butt of a few jokes. I have heard some interesting experiences that different people have had using Craigslist Personals and I must say that you could probably write a killer novel on them.

While I would recommend that you try other personals sites such as Yahoo or AOL Personals before you try using Craigslist Personals there still may be a reason for trying Craigslist Personals.

Your own personal entertainment!

If you have never tried the old style of newspaper personals then Craigslist presents a great opportunity to try it out. It is also a great opportunity to practice using emotive language and the power of just your words to appeal to a woman and get them to respond to you. Practicing just the words you use is a great way too improve your success meeting women online and at bars and clubs too. It can also be a lot of fun seeing some of the responses you get.

That being said you have to be careful and use some common sense as well on Craigslist. There are a fair amount of dating and Russian bride scams running on Craigslist Personals due to the anonymous nature of their personals sections. If you do end up meeting someone on Craigslist I recommend you talk to them on the phone before meeting them. Make sure you avoid any women with really old looking pictures or that want you to send them money or buy them plane tickets too come and see you before meeting them. These women are not interested in you and for all you know if you haven’t talked to them on the phone they may not even exist.

You have to be careful as these kinds of dating scams are becoming more prevalent on the internet in particular on sites like Craigslist. These dating scams try to play on the strong emotions that men have around the quest for fulfilling their desires for both love and sex.

I remember a few years ago now I was approached by a very attractive girl from Texas claiming she was new to my area and wanted someone to show her around. This didn’t ring any of my alarm bells as every thing seemed genuine and it seemed plausible as I was having a lot of great success with women at that point. We took our conversation off Friendster and all the emails seemed pretty genuine but something was just off, after about three emails I got a link to some kind of adult entertainment or escort site she was running. For the next year I got unsolicited spam in my inbox from similar such “women” claiming they wanted to “get to know me” better. I was not amused! Safe to say I learned my lesson and I fortunately was not naive enough to get trapped or fooled again.

So make sure you keep that in mind when you are using free services like Craigslist Personals because there are a few dating scams out there. Be very carefully of women who approach you from the Eastern Europe, South East Asia or South America on these sites if you are living in the west. These are often some kind of dating scam and I’m sure you have probably heard about the Russian Bride Scams by now.

So go have fun on Craigslist and enjoy trying out a good old fashion personals ad with just words and a picture. Just keep in mind that some people do not always have your best interests at heart and are only trying to deceive you to take your money. If you are serious about online dating I highly recommend some of the major online dating services with good reputations like Match.com, Yahoo Personals and AOL.

Using the Tips From an Adult Sex Guide Could Help Improve Your Love Life

Many books have been written for adults only. These books not only contain jokes, list out sex tips and discus different problems but also focus on games adults play. You can check out the details online and then download the right information which you can read at leisure. Several “Men’s only”sites are also available, where you can sign up as a member. Men openly discuss the most delicate topics and share views and opinions online. They send out regular newsletters, so that you receive an update on the latest in fashion, gadgets, products and more.

Some men are naturally good lovers. They are able to keep their women happy by doing what comes naturally. The important thing is that you should learn to relax. You should concentrate less on trying not to prematurely ejaculate and more on getting your lover in the right mood. A woman likes to take her time enjoying the sensations and foreplay that allows her to reach her peaks. Learn how to kiss and fondle her in such a way that she gets turned on. You can get detailed information from any adult sex guide online. Do not be hasty in choosing the first one that you see. Seeking information is one thing but putting it into practice will make the difference.

An adult sex guide will have more explicit information on the secret hot sex buttons you need to press, how much pressure you can apply and how to control yourself, from exploding prematurely. In the privacy of your bedroom, you can try out different variations and techniques. You can completely transform your den to make it look alluring, by lighting a few incensed candles, or you can both soak in that Jacuzzi swirling with beautiful red rose petals and lavender scented oils. The whole ambiance should be seductive with light music playing in the background. Do not overdo any of this because that could scare your lover away.

Make use of the hot sex tips that are contained in an Adult sex guide. Remember, kinky sex may interest your partner. Discuss your likes and dislikes and mutually try to benefit by deriving maximum pleasures from your efforts.

Read This Before Downloading Any Adult Sex Guide

The online world is actually inundated with adult sex guides. Just try searching for them on your favorite search engine and you are going to see such a lot of them waiting for you. They are all priced differently according to what they are supposed to contain and they contain different things as well. But, the point is, do you really need an adult sex guide?

The question you have to ask yourself is why you are looking for such a book to help you. Definitely the answer is that you are looking at improving your sexual performance. You are looking at giving your woman greater pleasure in bed. And you are hoping that the tantalizing sex guide you are looking forward to download will help you with it.

But, the fact is, no sex guide can help you if you don’t help yourself. These are some points you have to consider beforehand.

1. Good sex doesn’t come without a good equation with your partner. Yes, there are books that will train you in the pure art of carnal sex, but if you are in a long term committed relationship, then such a book won’t help you. Probably you will need a book that will tell you how to construct a better relationship with your partner than just some meaningless sex.

2. If you indulge in a great deal of foreplay, you can arouse your woman immensely. This is something that can really help you in what lies ahead. Maybe you won’t need the adult sex guide to spice up your act after that.

3. Another thing you have to consider is that you will need to actually implement the things that are mentioned in the guide if you want it to be effective for you. You cannot just read the book and then not implement it. Then it would be a futile exercise. In all probability the book is going to tell you about how you can have some more daring sexual experiences to make things more exciting-you have to be able to use that.

These are some of the things that you have to consider before downloading any adult sex guide. Will you be able to do it? That’s the question you have to answer.

5 Most Popular Myths About Sexually Transmitted Disease

What do you know about sexually transmitted disease, aka STDs? If you’ve never contracted one, then you have either had only one partner, or you have been smart enough to use protection, or you’ve just been lucky so far!

Here, then, are 5 myths about STDs that just might help you prevent getting one yourself.

Myth #1: You can tell if someone has an STD by looking.

This myth is almost laughable. Any idea what the symptoms of human papilloma virus (HPV) are in a man? I’d guess probably not, because many men who get HPV from a partner don’t have any symptoms at all. Yet the consequences can be quite serious, as HPV puts a woman at high risk for cervical cancer. The same can be said of chlamydia, which can lead to infertility if untreated.

Never assume that the absence of sores or a rash mean that a partner who hasn’t been tested is free of STDs. Always use protection, because what you can’t see can hurt you.

Myth #2: If you know your partner, you won’t get an STD.

I’ve had grown adults who are sexually active with multiple partners tell me flat out, “Oh, I don’t need to worry about protection, I know my partners are clean.” How? Clearly they are under the spell of the first myth, above.

When you’re sexually active with multiple partners, why would you assume that your partners are only sexually active with you? This is a fool’s game. Either get tested and stick to one partner, or use condoms.

Myth #3: Herpes can only be passed when someone has an active outbreak.

False. Many people have no idea that they’ve been infected with herpes because it can take several weeks for evidence of an outbreak and so they can spread the disease to other partners without either one suspecting a thing. Even couples in long term relationships should use protection if they want to ensure that the virus isn’t passed along.

Myth #4: STDs are passed in semen.

STDs are generally passed by skin to skin contact, like syphilis, gonorrhea, and herpes. Thus, people can pass STDs through oral sex, even if one partner doesn’t ejaculate into the other partner’s mouth.

Myth #5: STDs happen to somebody else.

Truth: STDs happen to all kinds of people, from all walks of life, and at every age. It is a fact that the largest growing population of people with AIDS in the US are senior citizens, who are sometimes naïve about the dangers of unprotected sex. Then, too, an unsuspecting spouse can contract an STD if a partner has unprotected sex with an affair partner or escort.

Whoever you are, whatever your age, if you suspect that you have an STD, get tested. If you know you are disease free, stay that way by using protection and asking new partners to get tested. Consider limiting your partners, too, so that you have less of a chance of becoming ill.